"A Good Wife Knows When to Stay Silent"

Dear Beta (Daughter),

No more room service.

No more coffee waiting on your table.

No more cooked dinner...you have to do it all now.

Before you begin your new journey, tie this piece of knot as advice for the rest of your life.

Stay QUIET and define your BOUNDARIES.

Talk less to the outer world and more to the inner world.

From now on, you will represent not just one but two different families and cultures. Remember, once words are spoken, they cannot be taken back. Therefore, pause before you speak—rehearse your thoughts in your mind before you respond.

The real gem lies in silence. Silence does not mean suppressing your feelings or holding internal battles. Rather, it is the art of knowing what you want and having a clear vision of your priorities. This clarity will come when you have firmly defined boundaries. Ask yourself what matters most at the end of the day—delicious food, beautiful clothes, fancy houses, luxurious lifestyles or your inner peace with the love of your life?

These boundaries will always protect your peace.

Even if your new family speaks a different language, we all humans easily understand a common language, i.e., the language of love. Don't rush to react or respond to every situation. Give yourself and your new family the space to grow together. Observe, understand, and then engage

It's easy to tie knots of misunderstandings and difficult to untie them.

I am not asking you to become a people-pleasing woman or to wear a fake mask. However, being too straightforward is often not the best way to communicate.

Never compromise your self-respect. Be loud and clear with your DON'T...

Beta relationships are like sleep—just as one sleepless night can disrupt everything, neglected relationships can create chaos. Nurture your relationships daily. Give them time, space, and, most importantly, express your love. whether it’s with your husband or any family member. Life is not about big milestones and celebrating on birthdays and anniversaries; it all has to be celebrated every day in quiet moments.

Remember, you fought a long journey to be with this man.

Sit in solitude; here you will discover your true self. Listen to his heartbeats, and let your love language communicate, especially at the moments when words are insufficient to express it.

I know my daughter is a bit verbose and hyperresponsive, and she's incredibly generous too. Do not just fade away under the burden of responsibility. Make time for yourself—sketch your dreams on this new canvas of life and fill it with all the beautiful colours you desire. Don’t let arguments or misunderstandings darken your masterpiece.

I’m not your biological mother; I’m just your friend, Mongi. But this is exactly what I would tell my daughter. You have thrived all this time, and I know you will continue to do so.

I am always just a call away.

Blessings, my daughter—may you always have strength, wisdom, and love.

Always your Maa.